Thursday, March 31, 2011
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
- I am one, alone.
- I talked to a woman and shared stories about my life.
- She listened.
- The woman shared stories about her life.
- I listened.
- We connected.
- She and I talked with other women.
- They listened.
- They shared their stories and we listened.
- Now we are all connected as one.
Friday, March 25, 2011
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Wednesday, March 23, 2011
During my day wearing the scarf, I felt invincible. It seemed to have brought so much luck to my day, helping me secure a job for next year, create a perfect schedule for next semester, as well as feel completely prepared for a midterm. It may have all been in my head, (or maybe I have read "The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants" one too many times...) but I felt like the day, the weather, and my mood could not have gotten any better! It was a great feeling to have such a great experience, and I hope everyone else who gets to experience the scarf feels the same way!
Unfortunately, the woman I was to pass the scarf to was sick the day of our meeting so I had to leave the scarf on her desk, but I'm looking forward to a possible make up lunch with her to carry on the spirit and companionship of this activity.
May everyone feel the blessings and love that travel not only through the scarf, but also through this bond of sisterhood and the community of UD as a whole!
So, when I found out Laurie would not be on campus, I asked the person on the list before her, Rebecca, about meeting to exchange the scarf. I think my life it just too busy, as we struggled to find a time that she could be on campus when I didn't have a meeting. Then we found out that Rebecca had not been able to get the scarf; it was lost! We wanted to meet anyway and finally found time before the work day; we decided to meet for breakfast. Unfortunately, she got sick and so we did not get to meet either.
So...I'm a little disappointed not to have had the opportunity to meet these women, though happy to have had a chance to try! And please, everyone, keep Laurie in your prayers.
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Let your light shine!
In the mist of the hustle and bustle
Let you light shine
For there may be others who
Need just a moment in time
A time to reflect that hope still exist
A time to reflect about the sacredness of being a women
Oh, yes we are a rare and special breed
A gift given by God that only us women can see
Slow down to know who you are, where you are, and where you are going
And know that in this very moment you are where God wants you to be
So, let you light shine and show the world who you want to be!
The first thing I noticed about the scarf was the scent. It became apparent that we all have our own body washes and perfumes that combine to a distinct smell which the scarf has. It shows the journey it has been on. It reminded me of someone that never washes their car to show that they are well traveled and give character to their car. Even though it may not be our preferred choice of scent, it is an interesting aspect of the scarf. I think, and someone correct me if I am wrong, but I am fairly certain that I had the youngest person in the sisterhood wear the scarf. After my 6 hour day of classes, I went to babysit for a family in Oakwood. I wore the scarf with a brown long sleeve shirt, a tan sweater and big metal aqua earrings (to bring an accent of color!). I babysit a 13 month old, who is not yet walking, and she loves to be held and loves to climb all over anyone who will give her attention. Her name is Hannah, and when I first picked her up, normally she would play with my hair. The time I was wearing the scarf though she became obsessed with the tassels, texture and how big it is. At first I held onto the scarf even when she tried to pull it off me, but that got tiring so I let her play with the scarf. She wrapped it around her head and began to laugh so hard. I thought she was going to stop breathing she was laughing so hard! It was a beautiful moment.
I then handed the scarf off to one of UD's famous and fabulous campus ministers, Lauren. This was our second meeting. We met a few weeks earlier because of the mix up in the schedule. During our first meeting, we met for coffee and ended up talking for about an hour. We realized we had a lot in common. Such as our experience working with the criminal system. I am a tutor at the Montgomery County Jail and she worked with the criminal system after receiving her undergraduate degree. I love making instant connections like that. We knew what the experience was like and did not even have to exchange words to describe our experiences. After our coffee date we were both headed for the 10am service for Ash Wednesday, and that led us to us bringing up the gifts together. But the best part was we became famous on Dayton local news! If you want to see the clip, it is earlier in some of the blogs. Overall, it was a wonderful exchange of the scarf and a way to see the community come together full circle. Oh the places we go....with the Sisterhood's Scarf.
Monday, March 21, 2011
Thursday, March 17, 2011
Saturday, March 12, 2011
Like most of the other women who have already written blog entries, I was very excited to receive the scarf and feel connected to all who have worn it before me. Sisterhood has always been a large part of my experience of being a woman. I have grown up the second of eight children and I am blessed that 4 of my 7 siblings are sisters. No matter how far (physically) we have been separated, I have always felt connected to my sisters in a different and deeper way than I have felt connected to female friends. I found myself these past few days reflecting on the amazing bonds of female friendship but even more so the bonds I have with two of my sisters who are in undergrad at UD. Before coming back to graduate school at UD I lived out in Colorado, 20 hours away from any of my family members. While my discernment led me to be back at UD it also involved a conversation with my sisters, one who was going to be a junior, Corinne, and one who would decide to attend UD for her freshman year, Cara. To be truthful we were all a little hesitant about being at the same school together. Not to say we wouldn’t get along but when you grow up in a large family, in your early 20’s there can be a desire to find your own identity that doesn’t necessarily involve your siblings. I think we all were afraid of stepping on one another toes and hindering each other’s experience.Although we started out in August 2009 with much hesitancy I can say with certainty the three of us have grown extremely close, a closeness that could not have happened if Cara or I had found ourselves at different schools. As sisters we are able to share our laughter and our tears with one another, something I lacked with my brother when we were in undergrad at UD together. We try to make a point to have dinner together every so often and to see each other weekly if not daily. We have helped each other grow in faith, challenged one another to become better people, and been silly together. Our idea of family and especially sisterhood has developed into a community and therefore our appreciation of and need for one another has grown into something beautiful. This has been one of the greatest blessings of my time back at UD for grad school. I now know the bond of sisterhood holds tight no matter where we are in the world or how we feel about one another in a given moment. These past few days I have been very aware of the blessings of sisters and sisterhood that God has given me in my life. This scarf experience of being connected to women, “sisters”, around campus has led me to recognize the unique relationship Cara, Corinne, and I have created. Next year I will be gone fromthis place, I don’t know where I will be yet, but I will always carry with me the bond of sisterhood. My community of sisters is far deeper and wider than I could have ever imagined it would be.
Colleen O'Grady (Picture above: Corinne, Cara, and I. Picture below: Cara, Me wearing the scarf)
Friday, March 11, 2011
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
The first thing I noticed about it was how shiny it is. It's really sparkly! I usually don't wear something like that. It's also long and luxurious, which I thought wouldn't work on my tiny, short frame but I was wrong. The scarf reminded me to try new things, even things that I don't think would work. I just started wearing scarves in general this year, since I bought some in Guatemala when I went but those scarves were smaller and somewhat less conspicuous than the Travelling Scarf. Still, women should wear something flashy every once in a while (or even every day, honestly. We've all got a fabulous side!).
I felt different wearing it; like people were looking at me and my colorful, eye-catching scarf. Some people were looking at me and told me how awesome it was. I said that this was the Traveling Scarf--they had no idea what that meant, but still liked it. A few people knew what it was, though and commented on how great of a program it is.
It's nice to think that there's something that ties us all together. I am not sure who has worn this scarf before I did. When you think about it, every person and every scarf/article of clothing/whatever has a story. All people are tied together in our shared history and experiences. This scarf is yet another way that we can all remember that as women, we are united. As people, we need to think of each other as fellow "scarf-wearers" in life. We have many things in common other than one singular article of clothing. How can we in our lives show our appreciation for those commonalities in each other?
Monday, March 7, 2011
I had a beautiful conversation with Daphene about her life as a new grad student and wife. She has such passion for working with others and I never really knew that about her. Daphene was an RA for my department but she never worked on my staff. We would say hello to each other in passing but our first real conversation was when she passed the scarf to me. It made me realize that I was missing out by not getting to know the other RAs in the department. I truly enjoyed our conversation and spending time with her. Thank you Daphene for reminding me to take a little extra time to get to know the students who aren’t on my staff.
I had an equally as beautiful conversation with Ione about her life in Columbus and her drive to Dayton every morning. Our lives are so different but I felt a connection with her and we probably could have spent most of the morning talking (if I didn’t have to run to a meeting). She drives an hour+ to work every morning and I literally have to walk through a door to get into my office. She has lived in Ohio her whole life and just received tenure from UD. I haven’t lived in the same place for longer than 4 years since I graduated High School and I am looking to move again in the next year or two. Like I said…very different but we still connected because the scarf. Thank you Ione for reminding to take time out of my crazy day to sit down and enjoy a conversation.
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Friday, March 4, 2011
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Whatever my hopes were for this program...this experience, the things you have shared far outweighs them.
Thank you so much for sharing.
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I had the amazing opportunity to go to the Freedom Center last weekend while I was wearing the scarf. I had never known that such a place existed just South of us in Cincinnati. I learned a lot about the history of the United States and slavery that morning. After lunch, I decided to go to their new exhibit called Slavery Today. A major part of this exhibit is about human trafficking. As I walked around and read stories about women today and experiences that they have gone through and where they are now despite what has happened... I noticed that I was holding onto the scarf. This came to my realization as I was walking down the steps to meet with the other students. I looked down and saw that my hands were tightly holding this piece of material that I was wearing.
It made me think about this word Community that we talk about at UD and how I am now in a community with all of you. Although I have not met everyone there is a bond that these scarves have linked us to. I wonder how I can spread this bond to other people as well- my family, friends, co-workers, and residents. How can we help everyone feel a part of something, feel loved?
I am so grateful that I have been a part of this wonderful experience. Thank you.
In Sisterhood and with Love,
Instead of being disappointed, I found myself feeling a secret glee at being quietly connected to my sisters... a secret I had that no one else knew. I felt power from being connected to my sisters and their stories through this piece of fabric.
In reflecting on that feeling of connectedness that a simple piece of fabric brought for the day, I am reminded of the many relationships with strong, caring, and extraordinary women that have sustained me in my life. Whether they are relationships of past or present, I feel secret glee that I am quietly connected to those sisters of mine.
For me, the scarf represents that powerful reminder, and I am humbled and appreciative for all of the sisters who have come into my life; some of whom are enhancing my life presently, some of whom have impacted me in a past stage of life, and some of whom I don't even know -but am connected to - through the scarf.
Denise Platfoot Lacey
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
I spend most of my work time at my desk, so I have decorated my office space with lots of things that I like to look at, from art to photos of family and friends. I found myself looking at my favorite picture of my grandmother and I, feeling like the scarf had something to say about her as well, even though she lives hundreds of miles away.
The scarf reminded me that my grandmother was a weaver in the Philippines many, many years ago. Last year I spent some time with her, interviewing her in an attempt to create a kind of oral history about my family. I wanted to better understand the journeys my parents and grandparents made to get here to America, and try to understand how they were shaped by their journeys. When my parents got married, they left the Philippines behind to come here and pursue the American dream—find a good job, have a nice home, and raise their children in the best environment they possibly could. My mother’s parents quickly followed behind, so they could be closer to their own children and grandchildren. But coming here meant they had to leave everything behind—including my grandmother’s giant loom that she used to weave blankets that she would sell to bring in a little bit of money into their household. I can’t even begin to imagine the mix of emotions she felt when she first stepped off the plane in New York, knowing she would never live in the Philippines again. Her life here has been completely different, and she has spent most of her time here helping raise each of her grandchildren. Her own children (my mother and her four brothers) have all come to the States and made new lives for themselves, and have done really well.
But grandma still calls the Philippines home, even after being here for over 30 years. She’s an amazing woman, full of courage and strength that she passed on to my mother. These two women have been my heroines since I was a child, and having the scarf reminded me of how fortunate I have been to have women like them in my life, and how fortunate I continue to be, meeting new remarkable women like Rebecca, and Maria, who I passed the scarf to today. For me, the scarf with all its brightly colored woven thread represents the idea of a journey beautifully. Overcoming your fears, moving forward with strength and courage, knowing that you are connected to amazing women wherever you may go.
Monday, February 28, 2011
I never know what my day is going to hold when I get out of bed in the morning or when I turn my computer on, this past Wednesday was no different. In fact I was so busy on both Wednesday when I received the scarf from Charity and on Thursday when I dropped the scarf off at Laura’s that I did not actually meet either woman. I have exchanged e-mails with both ladies in hopes of catching a cup of coffee (or fountain coke) in the near future to get to know them.
When I first saw the scarf I was nervous how I was going to pull off wearing it. My idea of an accessory is wearing a watch. I am about as plain as they come, no make-up, no jewelry (besides my wedding ring) and I usually wear the same 5 or 6 outfits. I have worn scarfs before but nothing as beautiful and colorful as the sisterhood scarf. I was running from one meeting to another when my student worker handed the scarf to me indicating that someone had dropped it off for me and that I would “know what it was.” I threw it over my shoulders and ran to another meeting. During the course of my crazy day I wrapped it around my neck and become much more comfortable and confident sporting the fabulous scarf.
My day with the scarf has reminded me that many of us women don’t give ourselves the credit we deserve. I am the mother of four (yes that is not a typo) wonderful children all under the age of 7, have a child with Type I diabetes, work full-time, and have a husband that works full-time (in Cincinnati). People ask me all the time how I do it. Well I do it just like I embraced the scarf, I throw it over my shoulders and keep moving!
I rarely have time to reflect on my life and my day with the scarf and reading the blog has helped remind me that I am not alone in this crazy world, let alone the UD campus. Just remember ladies, whether you are an undergrad or a Dean, black or white, you are not alone. Take some chance, keep moving, and don’t blink, you might miss something or someone!
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Saturday, February 26, 2011
I arrived at school and received compliments from the secretaries and several teachers on my team. I was delighted to tell them the story of the sisterhood and the sense of community at UD. One of my kindergarten students even told me that she liked my outfit, a compliment that left me grinning from ear to ear. I spent the day celebrating with the children and reflecting on how much they taught me over the past two months. As I waved goodbye to the buses at the end of the day, it took all that I had to not begin crying, and of course, the scarf.
It seems silly to place so much hope in an article of clothing, but I realize that it's not the scarf that carried me through the day. It was the support of women around campus that I have never met. Knowing that I was taking part in something bigger, something intentional, left me feeling fulfilled on a day when I thought I would fall apart.
Friday, February 25, 2011
How can a scarf, a lone scarf, colored in colors of shades of red and golden color unite and introduce women to each other?
I am not a scarf person so how will I wear this scarf. I struggled with keeping it on the first day, for it was hard to work with it draped around my neck but I discovered it was not how you wore it but why you were wearing it which then led to an incredible experience of unity and sisterhood. This was not what I expected to come from this experience. I am not sure what I thought the scarf would do, but my life was enhanced by wearing this Sisterhood scarf.
I had the pleasure of spending time getting to know two wonderful young women, their interests, their life, their views, and both with charming smiles and attitudes. I had met these young women in passing before and noticed their strength then. I now was able to meet them through this lone scarf. These women almost 20 years younger than myself shared their lives, aspirations, views of life, and just talked about many topics. It makes a person realize how much we are the same as women no matter what our age.
This scarf of wonderful shades of red allowed a bond to be formed that can forever be found in the passing of this simple piece of cloth symbolizing unity. Adding the color of gold intensified the meaning since gold is associated with wealth and prosperity and grandeur. We are now in possession of a bond of unity, wealth, prosperity, and grandeur. We are women as one.
One of my favorite authors is Richard Paul Evans and from his book “The Locket”, I found this excerpt:
“Believe. Believe in your destiny and the star from which it shines. Believe you have been sent from God as a arrow pulled from his own bow.
“It is the single universal trait which the great of this earth have all shared.”
As women we must believe in our own destiny.
Thank you to the sisterhood for being a part of my destiny.